Lessons Learned...

As you've probably noticed, my blog so far has been a pretty even mixture of beauty/fashion/girly shit and my thoughts/journal entry type posts. When I started this blog I really thought I would devote it solely to beauty and fashion, but I've realized over time that there is so much more that I want to write about and I don't want to limit myself.. I'm never going to make this blog something that's uniform and strict to one certain topic (BORING).. this blog is for girls like me, that's it.. I just want it to be relatable.. I want to be able to write what I think and feel and just be as open as possible.

So with that said, today's post is something that's a little hard to write about. I want to talk about LOVE and relationships and (hopefully) give some helpful advice.. it's a hard conversation to have because obviously I've had to experience a lot to come to these conclusions.. this is what I've learned in the past six months.. and I know this won't be for everybody, but hopefully someone will take something away from this.

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You can't change someone's behavior or how they treat you - do you really want to have to TELL a man how to treat you right? I'm your girlfriend, not your coach.

If someone acts like they don't care about you - BELIEVE THEM - THEY REALLY DON'T

Look for a man who keeps their word.. someone who is constantly letting you down, saying they will do things and not doing them, or saying they WON'T do things and are doing them.. that person is NOT the one. The man you will end up with will make it a priority to keep his word.

Don't tolerate someone who is selfish.. someone who only thinks about THEIR needs and THEIR wants and THEIR feelings.. You deserve attention, kindness and compassion, understanding, patience, honesty, loyalty, open communication.. Someone who loves you will give those things to you. A selfish person will not put you first. Your prince charming will.

Someone who truly loves you will make you feel MORE like YOURSELF, not less.. Love will come NATURAL.. if you find yourself doing things or accepting things that they're doing - that you are not comfortable with - it's not love.

Look for someone who is interested in and cares about nurturing YOUR dreams.. someone who truly loves you will encourage you and want you to be the best woman you can be. Your perfect man will be ON YOUR TEAM, rooting for you all the way.. not fighting and working against you.

Changing yourself and compromising in a relationship are completely different. 

Go with your gut ALWAYS - if you feel deep down like something is wrong, 99% chance it probably is.

If he has a fear of commitment or refuses to make you his girlfriend/fiance/wife (granted you've been together a reasonable amount of time) WALK AWAY. I guarantee there are dozens of other amazing men out there that would KILL to be with you. A CONFIDENT woman with high standards should never beg a man to be with her. If he keeps you waiting around, he's not the one.

People say you need to be comfortable with yourself and being alone before you can be in a relationship... this is ABSOLUTELY TRUE. You will never be happy with someone else if you don't love yourself first. Really look inside yourself - your strengths, flaws, interests/passions, goals and dreams and ambitions, what you stand for, those quirks that make you DIFFERENT.. you are SO special and beautiful and amazing! Don't discount that and give it to someone who won't appreciate it. 

The more time you spend on Mr. Wrong.. the more time you are wasting that you could be finding Mr. Right

Love is simple. If it gets complicated, it's probably time to walk away. When someone REALLY loves you there will be no IFs ANDs or BUTs.. no excuses, just LOVE.


if you haven't found your prince charming yet, be patient.. he's coming, I promise.

xo